If you want better sex, don’t listen to your guy friends. You think those chumps know any more than you? Instead, take it from the sexperts, playas, and ladies’ men who are getting it the most!

The last time you asked someone for sex advice, you were regaled with stories of Dad taking Mom to Tijuana for a donkey show. Luckily, we decided to boost your mojo by granting you a big sexual favor: Here is some hot tips to make your bedroom hotter than Djibouti in July. But don’t take my word for it. Take ’em home and try them yourself. And when she calls out the Almighty’s name in bed, just remember  who got you there.

“Rope-a-Dope” Her Hot Spot
“The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings—twice as many as the penis. To pleasure it, try the strategy Muhammad Ali employed to take down George Foreman during the Rumble in the Jungle: Ali let Foreman clobber him for a full seven rounds. Everyone thought he was a goner. Then, when Foreman was so fatigued from pounding away at Ali that he could barely lift his mitts, Ali sprang to life with a lightning-fast combination that sent the dazed and confused Foreman to the mat in seconds. Be like Ali. Let her push and grind against your flat, still tongue. Take it all in, then spring back with a series of fast vertical and diagonal tongue strokes. Lick her senseless with a short burst of energy and then return to the flat, still tongue, waiting for yet another opportune moment to spring to life again.” —Ian Kerner, Ph.D., sex therapist and author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Give Her an Incentive
“If you want the best blow job on Earth, put cash on the bedside table. I’m not kidding. I’ve had guys pay $10,000 for a blow job. Whether it’s $300 or $100,000, it’s an incentive that makes women give better sex. Or give Cartier. A little Cartier never killed a woman.” —Heidi Fleiss, former madam

Get Your Buzz On
“Turn your hand into a vibrator by placing the vibrator on top of your hand so she can feel the vibrations through it. Or you can cover an electric toothbrush with Saran wrap.” —Cynthia Geary, Author of The Bedside Orgasm Book

Listen to the Lesbians
“Fingering doesn’t mean pounding; a finger is not just a stand-in for a penis. Slip one finger between the outside of her lips and slide up and down really slowly until the vagina moistens itself. The lips make a line right up to the clit, so you can play with that a bit. Once she’s moist, go inside a little with one finger, but just one. Some guys think because one finger feels good, four fingers must feel better! It doesn’t.” —Terri Castillo, 29-year-old lesbian nicknamed “the Transformer” for converting nine women to her team

Establish Your Sex Dictionary
“Sexy talk in bed can be a big turn-on—unless she’s turned off by your language. So play a game: Find a magazine with nude pictures and point to body parts, asking her, ‘What do you want me to call that? A vagina, a pussy, or something else?’ Then tell her whether you have a cock, a penis, or a trouser monkey.” —Carol Queen, owner of San Francisco sex toy and book emporium Good Vibrations

Check Her, Uh, Credentials
“The best advice I can give you is to make sure your date does not have a penis. That happened to me: National Enquirer, 1990. I was arrested when I found out and was very displeased.” —Danny Bonaduce

Back Off
“Don’t sweat the pussy; make the pussy sweat you. If you really dig a woman, pass up sex the first couple of times, because the best sex you’re going to get is when she’s after you. If you’re just looking for one night, say whatever the fuck you want: If she wants to fly, tell her you’re a pilot. But if you’re fly enough to hold back, she’ll want to screw the shit out of you. The best sex comes down the road when the chick finally tells you what she wants and you can get into your freaky.” —Ice-T, rapper, actor, and creator of Liquid Ice Energy Drink

Aim High
“When you want to bring home a woman, pick the most attractive one and go for it. When I grew up, the ugliest motherfucker of the group always had the best-looking girls, because it isn’t about money or good looks—it’s about the balls you have and the attitude. If you choose to charm the best-looking girls, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.” —Fabrizio Brienza, male model and Miami club promoter

Suck Wind
“Breathing deeply gets you in touch with your body instead of your head. A lot of people tighten up when they get close to climaxing, but if you really breathe (and remind her to), it spreads the pleasure into a full-body orgasm. —Johanina Wikoff, Ph.D., author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to the Kama Sutra

Make a Promise and Keep It
“I hate to give away trade secrets, but when I’m kissing a girl good night, I might say, ‘Before I leave I’ve got to give you a couple of goose bumps.’ Then I carefully lean in and kiss the back of her neck really softly. If she likes that, I give a little squeeze to her back end. There are nerve muscles there that will make her hair stand up on end. If she doesn’t get goose bumps, either you suck or she doesn’t like you.” —Ron Jeremy, professional stud and star of over 1,750 (no, that’s not a typo) adult films

Encourage Her Wild Side
“Nice girls worry that if they get wild in bed, you’ll think of them as sluts. So I say this: If you’re lucky enough to have wild, risqué sex with your girlfriend, make sure to be particularly romantic afterward. If she dresses up naughty for you or gets kinky and spanks you, say, ‘I love you for that,’ and caress her hair while you say it. The wilder the sexcapade is, the more romantic you need to be afterward so she knows that you still think she’s a nice girl deep down. She’ll be bloody up for everything then!” —Tracey Cox, author of Superflirt

Draw the Curtains
“When you’re giving her oral sex, use your hands to part her labia, the outer lips of her vagina. If you hold her open with your fingers, it creates a bigger area for your tongue to explore on her, and it’s an erotic feeling for her to be spread by her man.” —Ava Cadell, author of The Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Oral Sex

Try the Scout’s Honor Move
“Here’s a great way to pleasure her G-spot with your fingers, but it requires dexterity. Musicians will be good at this! Have her lie with her thighs spread open and her knees bent. Then stick out just your forefinger and middle finger, as if you’re giving the scout’s honor salute, and insert those two fingers, palm up, into her vagina very slowly. Once you get all the way in, pull your fingers back out, making a come-hither motion to stroke her G-spot. At the same time, slide the same two fingers of the other hand in right below and keep switching hands. It’s basically a circulating motion in which two fingers of one hand are going in while two fingers of the other hand are coming out in one smooth, continuous rotation, and it feels utterly amazing.” —Joy Davidson, Ph.D., Seattle sex therapist and author of Fearless Sex

Ask, Ask, Ask
“Look, not every woman wants her vagina licked the same way. But not every woman wants to tell you you’re doing it wrong for her. So you need to ask her, ‘Am I doing this right?’ and give her the opportunity to tell you. It’s time we men stopped being so intimidated. If the woman’s having a great time in bed, I’m going to have a better time. If I want time by myself, I’ll masturbate! If she wants to use a vibrator, it can only contribute. If you’re pleasing her, she’ll go out of her way to please you.” —Cousin Stevie, adult film director

Give Her Some Skin
“The skin is the largest organ of the body. The more of your skin that touches her skin, the better. While you’re penetrating, touch her feet with your feet: Wrap your feet around her ankles, or rub the tops of your toes along the bottom of her feet; stroke her hair and lick her breasts. You can even put a little oil on your bodies so you slide better.” —Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Sex Talk: How to Tell Your Lover Exactly What You Want, Exactly When You Want It

Do It In the Kitchen
“You can last longer if a woman is lying on an elevated surface, like a kitchen countertop, and you enter her standing up (you don’t have to support all your weight on your arms like you do in the missionary position). Plus, you’re entering her from below, which affects the angle of the dangle so your penis will hit the top wall of her vagina, which is where her G-spot is.” —Barnaby Barratt, Ph.D., president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists

Massage Your Way to Sex
“Every woman loves massages. And there are so many lotions and creams out there to use. It wouldn’t hurt a guy to go to the store and say, ‘I want to give my girl a massage, so what should I get?’ And massage always leads to something.” —Stacy Keibler, wrestling diva

Be Her Breast Friend
“Playing with a woman’s nipples releases a hormone called oxytocin that causes a tingling sensation in her genitals, so be good to her breasts. Nipples are really responsive to temperature, so take advantage of that by grabbing a blindfold, an ice cube, and a cup of hot tea: After she’s blindfolded, suck on the ice, then lick her nipples very gently; next, take a sip of hot tea and lick her nipples again. Start soft and slow, and if she doesn’t punch you in the face, you’re on the right track. Or rub her nipples with baby oil to make them slippery little disks. Just like you don’t want a woman tugging at your penis with her dry hands, women don’t like that feeling either!” —Jen Sincero, author of The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping With Chicks

Rise and Shine
“The best sex I’ve had is when a man caresses me awake in the morning, waking up every nerve of my body until I really want it. But don’t go straight for the breasts and pussy, and don’t just start poking into her back. Curl up behind her and run your hands along her arm, follow the curves of her hips and butt. If you take your time, she’ll be begging for it.” —Candida Royalle, adult film producer, sex toy creator, and author of How to Tell a Naked Man What to Do: Sex Advice From a Woman Who Knows

Jerk Her Around
“The age-old question: Should you be a nice guy or a jerk? Well, why not both? Next time you see a cute waitress, say in a really polite tone, ‘Hey, shithead, want to go to a museum sometime?’” —Eugene Mirman, stand-up comedian

Read Her Body “If she moves her hips up off the bed, she’s telling you to lick a little lower. If she presses her butt down into the bed she’s telling you to lick higher. If she’s groaning and pushing into your face, well, she’s telling you you’re doing a great job!” —Diana Cage, author of Box Lunch: The Layperson’s Guide to Cunnilingus

Lick Her Before Beer “Guys say, ‘Get her drunk,’ but there’s a fine line between a girl being tipsy and ready to play and you ending up alone at Dunkin’ Donuts at 2 A.M. with her vomit on your shoes.” —Colin Quinn, host of Tough Crowd

Reach for the Thigh “The single most erogenous zone is her inner thigh. It sends a sensual signal to your partner without going straight for the bull’s-eye.” —Patti Britton, sexologist and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Sensual Massage

 
Ladies, men love it when you make some noise—it's the greatest reward for us. So next time, go crazy and try to have a strong O and/or many little O's. Even if we never finish, your screaming makes up for it!
–Darren

My ex used to make blow jobs even more enjoyable by putting an ice cube in her mouth. In return, she loved when I used ice cubes when I was going down on her.
–T. Davis

The best sex starts with a girl laying on her stomach, so I can rub the bottom of her feet and move up her body, one part at a time, kissing as I go. Add light lotion, and she won't want to leave the bedroom.
–Dave

When you are performing oral sex on a woman and your tongue gets tired, just stick it out as far as you can and bite down. Now you can use your neck muscles instead, and you'll be able to satisfy her longer—without getting tongue-tied.
–James

Before I go down on my girlfriend, I swish with Listerine for 30 seconds. After that, my tongue's so tingly, as soon as I touch her down there, she goes wild.
–Jay

The first step toward anal sex is getting your lady comfortable with you being down there. Next time you perform oral sex, go down a little lower and put pressure on her perineum (the space between the 1 and the 2). She will love the feeling and become less self-conscious about your meddling in her forbidden area. Slowly, over time, keep going lower. Eventually, she'll realize it actually feels good, and be more receptive to letting you have your way with her rump. But remember, go slow!
–Scott

Whether you're on top or bottom, making deep eye contact while keeping a steady rhythm will send her into hysterics! Once she feels that spiritual connection with you, she'll orgasm freely.
–Brandon

The wise lover always compliments his woman and tells her how beautiful she is, how gorgeous her body is, and how good she's going to feel. Go slow and build the excitement. Communication is essential. Talk to her and slowly begin touching her without going for the "gold" right away. Drive her wild with anticipation. And always get her off first—then reap the rewards of your excellent love skills.
–W.C.

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